The transgender bathroom debate continues across our country, but one person is gaining a lot of attention for her stance. As a victim of sexual abuse, Kaeley Triller is speaking out, and her message provides some hard questions to consider. The rape survivor called out the “emotional manipulation” being used, and she definitely raises legitimate concerns that should be answered.
Kaeley Triller caught the attention of WPHT-AM, a Philadelphia radio station, host Rich Zeoli after she wrote a thought-provoking piece for The Federalist. In her article, she expressed her views on the bathroom laws that became a hot topic when North Carolina enacted HB2 last month, which states public places should not have to provide accommodations for transgender people that allow them to use the bathroom of their choice.
Triller doesn’t believe the “bathroom laws” are an issue of civil rights, but rather a concern for public safety, and it’s a view she says is shared by other victims of sexual abuse. She elaborated on her thoughts in an interview with Zeoli this week, and her words definitely add another complex component to the ongoing debate.
According to Triller, laws should be based on objective, not subjective findings, and people should only be allowed access to the bathroom that corresponds with their biological sex. She gives compelling reasons for her stance, adding, “A lot of the people across the country feel the same way. This has nothing to do with transgenderism. It has everything to do with policies that are really bad and written on subjective terms.”
Triller opened up about the abuse she endured and what the “bathroom laws” do to victims like herself. “I was sexually abused for 10 years of my life. I had to work really, really hard to overcome some of the damage that that caused, just in my ability to function normally or to see things clearly,” she explained. “I knew this would affect a lot of women the same way it affected me.”
She clarified what she means, saying, “The possibility of being in a locker room situation, in particular, and showering, which is already a vulnerable spot, and you turn around and you’re confronted with the male anatomy, that’s a trigger. That’s a legitimate trigger for quite a few victims of sexual trauma.” This raises a valid point, and one has to realize that with 1 in 4 women being the victim of sexual abuse at some point in their lives, they far outweigh the small percentage of transgenders in our society.
While many are quick to point out that transgender doesn’t equal sexual predator, they are missing the real point and concern being expressed by the opposition, and Triller clarified this, as she wrote, “I am not saying that transgender people are predators. Not by a long shot. What I am saying is that there are countless deviant men in this world who will pretend to be transgender as a means of gaining access to the people they want to exploit, namely women and children. It already happens. Just Google Jason Pomares, Norwood Smith Burnes, or Taylor Buehler, for starters.”
She clarified again in her interview that she has nothing against transgender people, but would feel uncomfortable encountering them in a locker room or bathroom. She also noted in her piece that there is an alternative option that’s been proposed — single-occupancy restrooms and showers. However, the compromise has been criticized as discriminatory, but Triller sticks by the suggestion as a reasonable resolution.
In her article, she explains, “I’d much rather risk hurting a smaller number of people’s feelings by asking transgender people to use a single-occupancy restroom that still offers safety than risk jeopardizing the safety of thousands of women and kids with a policy that gives would-be predators a free pass.”
While many are quick to point out that women can be predators as a way to discredit the fears surrounding these bathroom laws, Triller notes that 99% of single-victim incidents are committed by males. We are opening up our restrooms and locker rooms, which are already highlighted by insurance companies as high-risk areas for abuse that should be carefully monitored and protected, and allowing possible perpetrators unrestricted entry, while we are also putting survivors of abuse in situations that are likely to trigger the traumatic events that they struggle to cope with already.
Are the “rights” of a small percentage of transgender individuals greater than the right of all women to feel safe and all victims of abuse to not have to face unsettling, upsetting, and unnecessary situations? Although Triller’s article poignantly points this out and gives extensive statistics to backup her claims, the rabid community of trans supporters have still issued vicious attacks and bombarded her with online harassment, making Triller suffer backlash for expressing her opinion.
“So much of this particular issue is fought on the realm of emotion,” Triller explained. “Since I’ve come out with this, I’ve been called an accessory to murder. ‘Children’s blood will be on your hands’ — things like that. I get those messages every day. This is such an emotional manipulation. I think that’s what we’re seeing straight across the country. You can’t speak out or you’re a bigot.”
Unfortunately, she’s right. This debate is founded on feelings and not facts. Sex is a biological fact, not a feeling, and once we blurred the lines there, they continued to be perverted. Now, simple common sense no longer applies. Once again, our society is willing to put the majority at risk of actual physical harm to prevent hurting the feelings of a select few. The squeaky wheel gets the oil, but we fail to notice how the rest of the machine – our society – is completely falling apart for the sake of the noisy minority.